I believe success is how you define it, no matter what you do and what industry you are in. Some people are successful even with or without having a paid job. The reason I am saying this is because there are people who create jobs and pay other people, meanwhile others, like the mothers, for instance, who would never get paid no matter how they sacrificed for their family and children. Maybe they do get paid, from one way to another…
By being a member of Australian Chamber of Commerce, Vietnam (Auscham), I was fortunate to join a short discussion about Self Leadership for Success back in January 2016 hosted by Auscham, CPA and TDWCo. The training was excellent and the information provided was absolutely insightful. I must admit that I have learned a lot from being there even just for two hours. I loved how we were given very clear and straightforward instruction but inspiring enough for us to understand ourselves from knowing our strengths; weaknesses; our needs and fears; to analysing the solutions; stage of development and action to achieve desired outcome.
We know that each person has different needs in life. And while talking about how to minimise you weaknesses and maximise your strengths to achieve your desired outcome, I was urged to raise a question at the end of the event: “What if sometimes, my strength is not even considered my strength anymore? Will this method still be accurate? For example, I could be a very good presenter and I have the ability to attract a whole lot of attention as soon as I speak. But in front of my parents, all my skills seem to be gone, even if I went to study in a famous international institution which they did not. They sometimes think I am out of my mind and I am unable to talk to them… And there for, I think this might be accurate when we apply in a professional context, but when it comes to having to deal with somewhat less of a proffessional situation, all the formulas that we were given and have gone through might not be effective anymore…”
For the above reason and scenario, I have come to conclude my own elements for self leadership for success:
Luck? Really? Isn’t that so unfair? How could someone’s luck become the first element for success? Yes, what did Bill Gates say? Life is unfair so live with it. Some people are born rich, some are born in poverty, some are born pretty and with good parents and some are simply not, all of these you cannot get to choose. So if you are lucky enough to have born in peace, fully abled person and to have full support from your parents then you should be a thousand steps closer to success than those who are striving to make a life in a whole lot more complicated world of weapons, drugs, poverty or disability.
Education & Training
There is no single person who is perfect in this world and there is always room to grow. Now let’s just take the action to write down your top strengths that need to maximise then write down your main areas that needs improving, whichever they are: communications, writing, presentation, computer skills, singing or dancing. You first need to learn then follow necessary steps of training to master your skills, just like what we always say: Practice Makes Perfect! And if it is not perfect, it will get better. I promise.
Consistency / High Emotional Intelligence
What I really mean is: Please, do not give up! Whether it is about achieving a professional goal or a personal pursue. Every so often, when it comes into wining a business or having to solve a problem, it is not for a person with the highest IQ (Intelligent Quotient) score that wins but the one with a consistent EQ (Emotional Quotient) does. Those with high EQ is not easy to be beaten down, no matter what happens to them.
To conclude, actually, I had thought of “Health” as the first and foremost element for success until I thought about “Luck”, then I asked myself this question: “Who could grand you a good health to start with?” Some people are still successful regardless of whether they are physically healthy or attractive. I would give Stephen Hawking from The Theory of Everything as a living example, although I am still a bit scared while looking and even dare to post his picture in the middle of the night like this. Well, while there is life, there is hope! (Stephen Hawking)