

Just a thought, ๐ข๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐ซ๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐ญ, ๐ฆ๐๐ค๐ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ฏ๐ ๐ ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐๐๐ฅ๐ ๐จ๐ซ ๐ ๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐ญ ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ ๐๐จ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐๐ฑ๐ญ๐๐ง๐ญ. If you still find yourself struggling with what’s got to do with the basics then perhaps you are not in a position to say a single word about other people and/or to judge on their abilities to do certain things. Work on yourselves and if you are on the right track, you won’t see yourself judging other people.
Here’s one of my favorite findings of all time “People transfer onto the current relationships the conflicts and assumptions generated in childhood relationships. They keep assuming that they are in the same constellation of roles and so repeat patterns of behavior. Most people experience their siblings, their fathers, their mothers and so on, on the job. Everybody has transference, the question is, how trapped are they in those patterns?” [Left on a mountain side, HBR 2006].
I have always thought that the worst advice that you could tell someone is to tell them to “Be yourself!”. Please don’t because yourself sucks. Everybody makes mistakes. Everybody has his or her own selfishness, desire, addiction and patterns. Try to be a better version of yourself instead. If you keep wondering how some people are the type of people you want to become, have you ever tried to practice and do the thing that they tell you to do? For instance, to overcome loneliness? to experience the same kind of pain? To sacrifice most of your leisure time to work on difficult tasks?
Although you can’t change the things you were born with, but you can always work on improving your mindset. I like it when I keep proving myself wrong from time to time. I used to think that I had ugly hands then once day I realized, my hands are not that ugly, in fact, they are actually quite pretty. And if my hands are ugly, then tell me what’s the definition of beauty? D’Art Chocolate has my hand holding the famous Phแป stick
If you are judging what I am saying now, read the first and the last sentence again and again, they are ๐๐จ๐ฅ๐ ๐ญ๐๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฌ.The point is, ๐๐ฏ๐๐ซ๐ฒ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฆ๐๐๐ญ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ ๐๐๐ญ๐ญ๐ฅ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ, ๐ฌ๐จ ๐๐จ๐ง’๐ญ ๐๐ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ง๐ญ๐๐ฅ, ๐๐ ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐!